When I was single, I was a complete social butterfly. In fact, some of my most “healthy” outgoing times were here in Charlotte, NC. I attended a church that I loved and had a great circle of friends. We would spend Friday nights at our favorite “spoken word” spot. We met often for potlucks and wine. We went indoor rock climbing and race car driving. We did life together and it was wonderful but deep down, I wanted to be married and start a family.
I considered myself very busy then and had no idea what the demands of wife and mom meant. I watched my mom do this effortlessly (or at least it looked that way to me) and I took many of my mom-friends for granted wondering why they were unable to attend various functions.
Now that I’m a mom, I get it. I truly get it. My busiest days as a single person don’t even compare to my slowest days as a wife a mom. I’m now caring for two humans (and myself).
Moms are more busier than ever and we’re more stressed than ever before. My husband and I have moved around alot in the four years that we have been married, but now that things are settling down, I’m realizing that I need a hobby…and so do you! 🙂
Here are a few reasons why you and I need to find something we love and enjoyed outside of the home and definitely outside of our work life:
Are you stressed out? Hobbies help us release tension.
Let’s face it..life happens. We’ve all experienced the good, the bad and the ugly in life. When the bad hits us, it can often be hard to bear. With the support of family and friends, we can make it through our trials. If you have a hobby, you have an outlet where you are able to do something fun and not think about your issues.
Spending time with a hobby creates an outlet to release the tension of the day. It refreshes you and often it’s an avenue to express your true self. You are having fun and being yourself! And, I’m not talking about reading a book. I’m talking about getting outside and being active. It will not only help your state of mind but it will also improve your physical health.
Hobbies can help you become a better mom
Are you a soccer mom? Are you always carrying kids to the next football practice, ballet recital or karate lesson? Maybe you should become a real “soccer mom” and form a team in your community. Intramural sports are a great way for moms to participate in teamwork outside of the home or office.
I remember when my son’s school started offering soccer lessons and basketball lessons. I wanted to sign Caleb up for everything. We are so good at signing our children up for lessons and classes and encouraging them to have hobbies, that we forget to learn new things ourselves. We need to always try to connect with other people who don’t always look like us or share our backgrounds. That experience alone opens us up to learning more about others and ourselves.
Hobbies break your always predictable cycle
I have a friend that plays Wiffle Ball. I have no idea what it is but when she initially invited me out, I was highly intrigued. Unfortunately, I wasn’t able to participate but I’ve sat on the sidelines and watched her pictures on social media. These people are husbands, wives, mothers, fathers, and children to someone yet they take time for themselves to get active. As a result, my friend has a blended community of people whom she may not see everyday but she calls her family.
Lately, I’ve found it hard to answer the question, “What do you like to do?” This is mainly because what I love to do includes doing whatever with Nate and Caleb. I had a friend that once said, “I’m getting tired of women saying their husbands are their best friends.” I was a bit confused because she was married. LOL! For me, this statement rings true in my heart. My husband is my best friend and I want to make sure that I am active in my son’s life. They are my world but I have to deliberately make time for Kesha.
You are just a better person when you engage in a hobby.
When you don’t make time for you, it will show. Hobbies help you to engage in something that allows you mind to be free. If you lose that softball match, so what? You will be sad for a moment but the team had fun trying.
Having hobbies don’t take away from your life, they add to it. They show you a dimension of yourself that you probably didn’t know existed. They let you stretch yourself in a way that is fun and enjoyable and not because your paycheck depends on it. They make you healthier and happier and every mom deserves that much.
So, if you promise to do this, I will as well. Let’s carve out some time to pursue our hobbies. I am going to rearrange my schedule to make it happen. I would love to hear about all the ways you are making time to create hobbies for yourself and what you are doing.
And as always, enjoy life’s sweet spots…