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It’s never easy being a mom trying to juggle a full-time job with a family life. There are some tips on how to get closer to reaching an ideal work-life balance. Being a full-time working mother and wife can lead to feelings of guilt and stress because of divided attention between work and family. The key is to focus on a plan, get organized, and find the right balance between profession, parenthood and being a wife, a good one at that.
The few things you can do to regain your life while trying to strike a balance are:
Find Quality Child Care:
Ask friends and family for references to nannies, babysitters, and daycare centers. Create a list of criteria that are important and then schedule time to interview qualified childcare providers or to tour local daycares. It is always good to hire nannies with a history of long-term commitments to families. This shows they have excellent experience and are adaptable to various age groups, caring for newborns and other kids. Having a nanny gives you a breather and a little bit of time for yourself.
Nate took the responsibility of interviewing daycares. He narrowed them down to the top three and then I went to those. Many women want to be a part of the entire process but I trusted Nate completely in this. Because of his diligence, we found a place that I absolutely loved. One tip: Just show up at the daycare. Don’t call first. Daycares should always be prepared for spontaneous visits for prospective families. If they require appointments, it’s typically not the right place.
Create and Organize a Family Calendar:
Figure out your family’s priorities. A calendar can include dates when bills are due, a chore chart for the kids, a list of school and family events, extracurricular activities, birthdays, and more. It is smarter using Google calendars, which can be easily shared and synced on smartphones, because they are color-coded and get superimposed on each other, so you can always be on top of scheduling challenges.
Spend Time with Your Spouse:
Remember to nurture your relationship with your spouse, who will often be the number one person by your side. Start by having monthly date nights to get closer, feel rejuvenated, and enjoy each other’s company. Often, if you’re busy with work and home, your spouse is the first to get neglected. I work an hour away and I have to leave home at 6a in order to avoid the traffic. I also leave work around 3:30 in the afternoon to avoid rush hour. I do this to have more time with my family but it takes a toll on me – physically, mentally and emotionally. By Thursday, I’m exhausted and head straight to bed when I get home. Even though he understands, I know Nate sometimes feels neglected. Date nights are extremely important to our relationship even if they are indoor after Caleb goes to bed.
Create Moments for Yourself:
By managing time wisely, you can fit in valuable “me” time regularly. A refreshing break will help you recharge while taking care of personal needs. Because your time is divided between your home and your career, make sure to manage your energy well. You can’t be an effective spouse or mom if you’re cranky, so take time to care for yourself to feel relaxed and effective. Lose yourself in a book before you go to sleep, take a bubble bath once a week, or treat yourself to a spa day. Fit in time for exercise or focus on a hobby. Remember to eat well and get enough rest. These are simple things that even the smartest moms neglect.
Create Special Family Activities:
Making time for your kids is crucial, both during the week and on the weekends, to nurture your family dynamic and allow everyone to bond. If you’re pressed for time, have a family breakfast or a family night with board games or movies. Create activities that regularly fit into your schedule so everyone knows what to expect and what to look forward to.
I have to remind myself of these points EVERY DAY! It’ s hard especially when there are so many things vying for my attention I definitely want to be a wife a mother that my family can depend on.
Okay moms out there…how do you do it all? I want to hear your stories….
And as always, enjoy life’s sweet spots….