Stay at Home Date Night Ideas Even While the Kids are at Home


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There are times when I not only feel mom guilt but I also feel wife guilt. As a woman who has a full-time job outside of the home, I come home and start on my second job of taking care of my family and then my third job which is this blog. After a full day of all of this, I want to have some time for my husband.

Kids are a blessing but sometimes you might feel distant from your spouse after they are born.  Our attention turns to the child and we forget about our spouses. It is not intentional, its just that our lives go in so many different directions that we forget to take care of each other. We have to remember to do those fun and romantic things you did before you had kids.  If you have drifted away from your spouse, don’t worry. It has happened to most of us. You can get your spark back!

You might think it is impossible but it is very possible. All it takes is planning and flexibility. We have a toddler so between fighting sleep, asking for snacks, and wanting to play with daddy, a scheduled 8 p.m. at home date night might turn into a 9 p.m. at home date night.

So, let’s get to it! It’s important that you start with the following strategy:

1- Plan well: It’s ALL about planning ahead. It’s so easy to fall into the “normal” routine of any other night but when you plan ahead of time, it gets you out of that “normalcy” rut.

Tip: Send a text to your husband sometime during the day to remind him of your date and to let him know how much you are excited about spending time with him.

2- Be creative: Don’t let the fact that you are home stop you from making the most out of your night.  Be creative.  Be romantic.  Pretend you are out on the town and act like you would at a nice restaurant.

Tip: Sometimes you are so tired that you don’t need to pretend. You are happy to have a break. Go with that! Enjoy your home and enjoy each other.

3- Set a date and time.  This may seem so obvious, but you would be surprised on how easy it is to continue to put off doing the date if there isn’t some sort of commitment to making it happen, so set a date.

Tip: My husband and I are soooooo guilty of this one. You have to make this a priority even if you don’t feel like it. When I push through my feelings of tiredness to spend time with my husband, I find myself really enjoying the time with him.

4- Get things ready.  It’s not enough just to plan for the night; you actually need to set things up for the night. Having kids around should not be an issue. Get things ready in such a way they won’t interrupt the date night.

Tip: Have your kids help in the preparation. It’s good for kids to know that mommy and daddy are going to spend some alone time together and they have a part in helping make it happen.

5- NO distractions.  It’s easier to get distracted by things because you are at home.  Make sure to be present and focused on your relationship, not things that need to get done around the house.

Tip: I can find something to do in our home every minute of the day. I am learning to let things go. Another tip is to turn your cell phones off. Your kids are home so you don’t need to make yourself available to anyone else.

Now after the planning has been done, here are some ideas on what to actually do during the date night:

  1. Make Dinner or Dessert Together:

Making dinner on a weeknight can be a rushed and stressful affair. Meanwhile cooking together when you have intentionally blocked off time for the task, and the kids are in bed, can be a lot of fun and a nice way to reconnect. Make something you haven’t tried before that’s hands-on in preparation, like sushi or cheesecake. My husband and I have started preparing some vegan meals so we are preparing things we never even eaten before.  

  1. Eat Dinner By Candlelight:

It’s amazing what a little change in atmosphere can do to transform the experience into something special. Sure, maybe you eat dinner all the time in front of the TV but put a tablecloth on the table, light some candles, turn on some jazz music, and really take the time to talk, and you’ll be surprised how rejuvenated you will feel.

  1. Ask Each Other Questions:

There are tons of “questions for couples” books and card decks out there. There are also ones that are not specifically couple-focused, but simply offer fun conversation starters for everybody. If you feel like you and your spouse haven’t really talked in a long time, and have trouble discussing anything other than work or your kids, having a list of interesting question prompts can get you laughing, conversing, and learning new things about each other again.

  1.  Do a Puzzle Together:

Like playing a board game, doing a puzzle together is a nice relaxing activity that helps you chill out and have good conversation. Pick a puzzle you can finish that evening something like 200-300 pieces. This one is my favorite!

These are a few steps and tips that will give you and your spouse a different scenery from the normal every day routine. With these few date night idea, you are committing to focusing on your relationship and taking time out to focus on each other. Your marriage will be stronger because of it.

I want to hear from you! What are some stay at home date night activities you do with your spouse?

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Kesha Holloway

The author Kesha Holloway

Kesha Holloway is the founder of Living in Your Sweet Spot. She is passionate about being a wife and mother and desires to align herself with women equally passionate about their families. She believes the woman is the backbone of the family unit and it's her mission to help lift women to achieve their purpose.


  1. Love, love this article. Just want to share something I’ve done back before it was called “date night”. Create a romantic picnic with nice finger foods, like strawberries, cheeses, grapes finger sandwiches, accompanied with soft music is a must. That type of food choice is excellent for feeding to each other and having intimate conversations. A nice glass of wine will go nicely with this as well, non=alcoholic if you are not a drinker like me.

  2. These are such great ideas! It’s so important to have a connection with your significant other. Putting forth the effort is worth it for both of partners.

  3. Love these ideas and tips Keysha. My hubby is the romantic one in our relationship. When we were younger he used to put lanterns in our tree house and we’d have a picnic up there. It had a little ladder that you could roll up so no one could get up uninvited 😉 We’re too old to climb the ladder any more but he’s made a little wood platform that he puts on the grass nowwith those same lanterns and we still have “date nights” at least once a month

  4. Sweet ideas. My husband and I rarely get the chance to go out together so we’ve got our evenings in down to a fine art!

  5. These are sweet ideas laced in emotions and romance, and creatively thought by you. I am sure these work wonderfully because these are little moments filled with love and care.

  6. These are all fabulous ideas, I can only imagine how hard it is to juggle so many huge parts of your life and taking time together is important. I love the puzzle idea, its a great way on working and finishing something together aswell as having time to talk about everything and nothing!

  7. I don’t like going out on Valentine’s day. Restaurants are so crowded, it really loses it’s romantic notion really quick. Our kids left home a while ago, so I am lucky to have a low-key hubby. Our Valentines’s plan? Romantic, home cooked meal by candlelight and Xbox!

  8. These are some great ideas. We have no plans yet for Valentine’s Day and these home date night ideas even while the kids are at home is so helpful. Thanks for sharing!!

  9. I love this! We find it hard to get out and go places because we only have one steady babysitter (my mother in law) and the rest of the time we don’t have it in the budget! We need to make dates IN a priority. I’m totally going to take some of your suggestions!

    1. I’m right there with you. My mother is 2 1/2 hours away and we also don’t have a steady baby sitter. It’s hard to entrust your child with someone you don’t know.

  10. I love the ideas you have outlined here, it’s easy to get sucked into not doing anything romantic when you can’t go out but you gave some really good ideas 🙂

  11. As a layperson when it comes to relationships, I always imagined it was nearly impossible for a couple to have some quiet time together after the kids are born. A stay at home date sounds lovely, and I love how you mentioned not only the things you could do but also things you must not (e.g. get distracted – and I imagine it is a common issue).

    1. My husband and I are always getting distracted by our son. We have to make sure we are being intentional about our time together.

  12. I have never had a date night at home with my husband since the kids were born!! That’s a great idea, and I will try to set it up soon for us, I’m sure my hubby will love it!

  13. I loved the way you tried to make things easy for all the working ladies who found themselves entangled between the office routine and demand of care and time from family. Sometimes, they get compelled to leave their job for family but this kills her from inside. Thank you so much for sharing such useful tips to make family life vibrant again without compromising job or career. Being a working woman I can really feel the need of such guidance for myself..😊😊

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